Going...Going...Gone

• Began hitting me and calling me a bitch and whore when he was 11
• Ran off and hid in a tree for two hours when he was going to get in trouble for stealing.
• Stealing & shop-lifting
• Kicked off the school bus for choking a kid
• Kicked off the school bus for throwing things at the bus driver and unlatching the bus driver's seatbelt
• Kicked off the school bus seven different times for various things
• Skipped school and brought back by the police
• Threatened and physically hit his little sister who is 6 years younger and told her he would kill her in the night if she told on him
• Started smoking somewhere around 9,10 or 11
• Told me his dad was having an affair (he wasn't)
• Barricaded his bedroom door with his furniture
• Takes drugs
• Got in trouble by the MP's for doing things on post
• Got into pornography
• Snuck out of the house at night
• Three different dad's complained about him to his dad and one dad drug him up to the house. He was bullying all of their kids.

All of those things happened from 11-13. From 13-present he...

• Began swinging at me again and I refused to watch him
• Called me a bleached, blonde bitch right in front of his dad who got mad at me and his own daughter. He took up for his son who was bullying his own daughter.
• Became so out of control that his dad finally sent him to live with his real mom. He hit her also and his step-dad put him in a choke-hold and sent him back.
• Got arrested by the police for pointing a bb gun that looked real
• Got arrested for egging the DA's house
• Curfew violation
• Speeding tickets
• Skipped school his 9,10, and 11th grade year numerous times
• Put in the hospital for a drug overdose
• 5 pages of things he did at school that he was put in detention for
• Picked up at K-Mart for shop-lifting
• Wrecked his car once
• Wrecked his car twice
• Put in after-school detention numerous times for skipping school
• Continued drug use on and off
• We've spent $1500 for lawyers, $300 on K-Mart shop-lifting, over $1,000 a year in car insurance, over $1,000 in hospital bills for the overdose
• Broke the door on the patio
• Broke his bedroom door
• Lied to the police about a robbery and wouldn't give the police the name of the drug dealer he called. (I took him to the police station and sat with him through all of it.)
• Many, many more things to numerous to list

Now, the kicker. He has suffered no consequences for any of these things nor received any punishment. His dad makes excuses for everything he does. He graduated from high school last May and for the last two years did nothing around the house and refused to keep his room clean and his dad still gave him allowance, approximately $100 a month for all the crap he was pulling.

Just recently, when I told him to clean his room or I would be putting all the crap out in the garage, his reply was, "Don't touch my stuff. What do you want. I have a job now." What do I want? I want you to stop urinating on the stool and floor. I want you to keep your room reasonably clean. I want you to keep the bathrooms free of all your long hair. I want you to stop flipping toothpaste all over the bathroom walls and sinks. I want you to clean up the kitchen when you mess it up and mop up the spills on the floor and cabinets. I want you to wash your own dishes and keep the trash out of your room. I want you to take over your insurance. I want you to get your car repaired so I don't have to keep taking you to and from work. I want respect since you live in my home. I want you to stop living as if you have no obligation in this house-hold. I want you to stop coming in through your bedroom window after I've told you over and over again not to. But most of all, I want you to stop asking me to help you when you show total disrespect and dishonor for me. The way it stands now, you're on the verge of receiving no help from me at all. And, as I told your dad, I'm the one who has spent time taking care of you through all these years, trying to teach you ethics, honor, and respect for someone besides yourself and I am the one who will be pushing you out the door if you don't begin to turn yourself around. You're over 18 now...enough is enough!